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Dolce far niente is sweet idleness may be described as art of sweet doing nothing. While many people are looking for ways to fill their time. I think I started my new year in a different manner where I might have been judged by some. So it triggered I thought why I am feeling light. But that’s the beauty of doing nothing not getting bored. It’s part of me time where you do nothing just to observe what is happening.
By BHOOMI DIWA
I had heard the name Dolce far niente first time in the movie “Eat, Pray and Love” where an Italian explains to American how their idea of relaxing and taking break to live a life where you become the model for people on social media. While the best way to enjoy something is to pause and enjoy the moment. Cherry on the cake is not wait for vacation or a special time, it is part of their living.
Why do people fancy this so much? Human beings have been wired to focus on some task from the list of things to do. It is another effort to just sit and pay attention to nothing including mobile or any digital device. We are creatures of habits and more than 60% always looking to act productivity and rest 30% look for ways to spend time on digital media rather than giving the importance to themselves before anything and anyone. We have forgotten that doing nothing with stillness is the foundation of healthy mind and health. When the half of the world is having the burnout reason is we have forgotten the basic art of just being with ourselves.
“The answers you seek never come when the mind is busy, they come when the mind is still.- Leon Brown”
Some of the good leaders of our time also embrace the art of doing which helps them to make better decision since you learn to listen to your gut and inner voice.
“Wisdom comes with the ability to be still. Just look and just listen. No more is needed. Being still, looking, and listening activates the non-conceptual intelligence within you. Let stillness direct your words and actions.~ Eckhart Tolle”
How to cultivate it? We can start with the small actions you like. I like to take myself on dates once every month on a sunny day irrespective of whatever is happening in my life. I take the privilege of going offline during this time. I find myself a nice quiet place from where I can look around and see the
environment, you can choose to as per your comfort zone. You can focus on savouring every bite of the food. Just being present in the moment individually might be tough initially but gradually you will enjoy
your me too. If you find taking yourself on date to restaurant too ambitious, start the setup even at home looking outside the house and have a luxurious meal while having me time or go for movies or anything you are passionate about. Make gradual progression. Once you feel comfortable with the idea
start extending the duration to a day.