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I wasn’t writing any blog since I wasn’t feeling passionate about anything. So, what better way to connect with my feeling than the feeling of love? When I reached my office received a mail with Monday Motivator and filled stories of love. So, I took this as God’s signal and started penning down all my emotions. I was reading a Zen Stories and loved 2 stories and would be quoting them. These stories are so beautiful that beauty of any relationship can be understood by them. I have seen people fighting with each other when they find their partner have taken them for granted. People need some compassion and kindness for each other. Same is understood by the story given below

“There was an old woman in China who had supported a monk for over twenty years. She had built a little hut for him and fed him while he was meditating. Finally she wondered just what progress he had made in all this time.
To find out, she obtained the help of a girl rich in desire. “Go and embrace him,” she told her, “and then ask him suddenly: ‘What now?’”
The girl called upon the monk and without much ado caressed him, asking him what he was going to do about it.
“An old tree grows on a cold rock in winter,” replied the monk somewhat poetically. “Nowhere is there any warmth.”
The girl returned and related what he had said.
“To think I fed that fellow for twenty years!” exclaimed the old woman in anger. “He showed no consideration for your need, no disposition to explain your condition. He need not have responded to passion, but at least he could have evidenced some compassion;”
She at once went to the hut of the monk and burned it down.”
To sustain love we kindness else when people don’t find that in a relationship they move out of it. Love starts with a walking on the moon feeling ends with walking on the needle bed if emotions are not reciprocated.

While other story tells us about the need of express love, this reminds me of incident when a friend of mine who really loved a guy and was waiting for the guy to profess his love towards her, couldn’t accept the proposal because he proposed through phone.She found the act coward.As per her if you love somebody be ready to accept it by looking into eyes else no point even accepting it.According to her Love is such an emotion which should be so strong to create madness in you else it is not love.
Story goes as below
“Twenty monks and one nun, who was named Eshun, were practicing meditation with a certain Zen master.
Eshun was very pretty even though her head was shaved and her dress plain. Several monks secretly fell in love with her. One of them wrote her a love letter, insisting upon a private meeting.
Eshun did not reply. The following day the master gave a lecture to the group, and when it was over, Eshun arose. Addressing the one who had written to her, she said: “If you really love me so much, come and embrace me now.”

Love must some reason to have madness in it else how we justify some much written on it. I feel incompetent to express it in few lines. As more and more I try to express love in more logical sense it loses charm. It is that gut feel where people they know they can live with that person forever. But once you are in love what next? To carry a relationship you need to have understanding and love both else it will break down. Understanding helps us see the truth, and love causes us to act on it. Understanding helps us to see that for all our superficial differences, we are of the same essence. Without understanding, it is all too easy to be judgmental. We see someone acting selfishly, and a barrage of anger and criticism arises within us. Understanding helps us see past their behavior and to recognize that this seemingly selfish person seeks love and happiness, just the same as we do. Rather than judging that person as “bad”, we view their selfishness as ignorance, and we feel compassion for them. Understanding makes us more accepting, less judgmental, and thereby removes some of the impediments to love. Love is what makes us willing to reach out and touch them, to put ourselves in their shoes. Love is what stops us from rejecting or ignoring those whom we may otherwise recoil from. Whereas understanding is helpful for love, love is absolutely essential for true understanding. The love comes before the understanding. They each boost each other and one is incomplete without the other. Without understanding, there is a danger that the love will go away. Understanding is what maintains the love and helps it expand to encompass all. Yet without love, the understanding is empty.

I hope with this blog all the people who want to fall in love or already are, would be able to create a beautiful relationship with love and understand both like a recipe doesn’t get its flavor till all ingredients and spices are put in it.Love never ends but requires some kindness and understanding.